Imposter syndrome is often defined as persistent feelings of inadequacy despite the evidence of success, and can affect even the most accomplished leaders. Believe it or not, around 70% of successful people experience these imposter feelings at some point in their careers*. And we often see this come up in coaching conversations.
In fact, recent research suggests imposter syndrome might actually have its benefits, particularly in work relationships. Basima Tewfik, an Assistant Professor at MIT Sloan**, has found that individuals with imposter thoughts were perceived as more interpersonally effective. Their self-doubt drove them to focus more on their relationships with colleagues, fostering better cooperation and interaction.
So, instead of trying to banish imposter thoughts, perhaps we should embrace them. Recognising and challenging these thoughts, while leveraging their potential to enhance our interpersonal skills, might be the key to turning imposter syndrome from a foe into an ally.
What else can we do about it?
A first step in dealing with imposter syndrome is recognising when it’s happening. Give that voice in your head a name—let’s call it Fred. Or Wilma. When Fred whispers that you can’t do something, that you’ll fail, or that people will see through your façade, acknowledge it. Say, “Hello Fred, you’re back. What do you want now?” By recognising these intrusive thoughts, you bring them into the light, making them easier to address. Don’t push them aside, or try and ignore them because they will continue to eat away at you.
Once you’ve acknowledged Wilma, challenge her lies with facts. Feelings are not facts, and facts are the sunlight that destroys the darkness. For example, if you’re preparing for a presentation and Wilma tells you no one cares about what you have to say, counter with the truth: you were invited to speak, the audience is interested in your topic, and you’re the expert in the room. Tell Wilma, “What you’re saying is BS. Be gone.”
More strategies to overcome Imposter Syndrome:
- Know your triggers: Be aware of situations that trigger imposter feelings and have a plan to manage them.
- Build a support network: Surround yourself with people who provide realistic feedback, emotional support and encouragement.
- Write down negative thoughts: Reading them later allows you to see their absurdity and reduces their power over you.
- Practice intentional breathing: Deep breathing reduces cortisol levels and helps centre your mind.
- Practice self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer a friend.
- Emulate those you admire: Think about how someone you admire would handle your situation. And practice that.
Remember, no one is perfect. Learning from mistakes is a vital part of personal growth. Be kind and compassionate to yourself and embrace the learning process.
Jonathan Sweeney, ECI Partners, August 2024
- Matthews, G., & Gibbs, M. (1985, July). Psychology Today, 19(7), 5.
- https://mitsloan.mit.edu/alumni/impostor-syndrome-and-its-surprising-upside
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